In response to a an anonymous question.
What makes me gay:
Well ever since I was 6, I wanted to play with my cousin as princesses. Cause she had a princess play set, with the snap on earrings, and tiara. And I told my mom I wanted one cause it was so much fun, and she was like sure. However when my family heard of this present a lot of them were appauled saying things like, are you trying to make him gay? And Voila, i'm a faggot who is proud of it.
But I am gay because in a relationship I need to cry on a shoulder and not to be cried on. (metaphorically) However I have dated girls before I came out, and they were not right. I am not a shoulder to lean on, I am the leaner. That's not saying I don't listen to my partner and help him, its just how I feel about relationships.
Long term relationships are glamorized. Because people have these outlandish ideas in their head about the perfect boy and perfect place, and just because they can dream it, they think it will be a reality. I have experienced long term relationships, and they are hard. You can't set your sights for what YOU want. You need to let other ideas flow into your mind and overtake what your mind has created on the "perfect life". Because there is no such thing. Life has curve balls, and tends to throw them quite a lot.
And sexual activity between partners, does need to incorporate both parties. One person can't say that a person they slept with is an awful lay, cause they need to help as well. If that person who said they were an awful lay, doesn't do shit under the covers, then 'that' person is probably a horrible lay.
