R.L.
"If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away + If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay + Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache + Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that is not meant to be + Slower is better + Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy + If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve, then fuck no you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend + Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is + Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better + The only person you can control in the relationship is you + Always have your own set of friends separate from his + Maintain boundaries in how a man treats you. If something bothers you, speak up + Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later + You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within + Don't EVER make him feel like he is more important than you are... even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him a quasi-God + He is a man, nothing more, nothing less + Never let a man define who you are + Never borrow someone else's man + If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you + A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you + All men are NOT dogs + You should not be the one doing all of the bending.... compromise is a two way street + You need time to heal between relationships, there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship + You should never look for someone to complete you, a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals; look for someone complimentary not supplementary + Dating is fun even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right + Make him miss you sometimes... when a man always knows where you are, and you're always readily avaliable to him he takes it for granted. + Never move into his mother's house + Never co-sign for a man + Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others. "