how can one obtain forgiveness does one ask for it or does one earn it i believe you have to earn it.

its one thing to ask someone to forgive you but if you dont give them a reason to forgive you then why should they, i know everyone craves forgiveness for there past sin, i am no exception infact i think im the best example i can give, in my past i have done terrible things to the one i loved and i lost her love forever but if i can get forgiveness from her my soul will be at ease and if that means being her servant then i shall, there are many people i have hurt with my actions and i wish to be forgiven by all of them some may just give me forgiveness some will make me earn it, so to all that i have hurt and you know who you are i am asking will you forgive me for the pain i have caused you