Why Men Can't Apprach Women

It is all about evolutionary science. This goes back to the beginning of man. The human society has gone from a small nomadic tribal based one to over a million people living in certain metropolis areas. What has changed inside the human body? Nothing. And that is the problem men face when we want to approach women. We are biological machines made up of working parts; heart, brain, lungs. But we are outdated.

So how does this tie in to evolutionary science? Well the world has changed alot in the last 40,000 years and mankind is lagging behind. Take this scenario for instance:

You live in a smaller tribe 40,000 years ago. It is made up of 50 people. 25 men and 25 women. As a dashing young male of 19 years (i'll use myself of course :P) you are expected to get a mate now since your life expectancy is not very long. In fact it is so short that your in your mid-life crisis. So in your search for a mate you narrow it down from the 25 women. Some are too old, too young, sick and gangly, ugly (thats a superficial term I use sparingly), or related to you (which didn't always matter). So now you take that and from the orginal 25 you down to 3 or 4.

You "approach" one of these 3 or 4 women but you screw it up somehow. So this is where the hard wireing of "approach anxiety" came from. You just screwed up with the one girl but you can just go for the other 2 or 3 right? Wrong. People hang out with other people they consider to be of equal value. Thus all 3 or 4 of these girls are a group and screw up with 1 you screw up with all of them. (Don't believe me. Look back at highschool).

So great now what do you do. No one in your tribe wants to sleep with you so your genes will be weeded out of the gene pool right? Well you next option is to tap into that nomadic nature inside you and go meet new people. Now new people means new tribes which may or may not be hostile. So you apprach these "strangers" and well you fit in alright because they are not hostile (phew). Ok well you see a very attractive new girl and you go talk to her. BAM. Thats the sound the club makes when you get head in the head with it. Turns out she was the cheif's bride.

So your tribe knows what happened to you and they all realise that travelling away from home is bad thus strangers are people you should never talk to.

So now getting back to why it is hard for men to talk to women. It has been hardwired into us to be catious around things that may hurt us. So not only that but its hardwired not to talk to strangers so men get the evolutionary hammer twice.

So what is the point here I am trying to make? We don't live back 40,000 years. Go out there and talk to people.